A Girl's Insight

[Chris]

Hi. I'm a guy, and I'm having a little trouble with a couple of female characters I want to write about. Having little to no insight about girls and what makes them tick, I'd like to run past some scenarios against anyone who's willing to help me out. If you are, please feel free to post your responses to the following questions, and thanks in advance for your assistance and cooperation.

Question 1 - Your are the second of three children. You all live with your mother, who has been divorced for almost a year and a half now. Your father still loves your mom, but she won't have him. You are really close with both your parents, but the bond is somehow deeper with your mom. Your mom has been dating a guy for around 7 months, and she's getting the feeling that he's going to propose to her. You don't think he's right for your mom, but you want her to be happy. She comes to you and your sisters, and asks what you think of the guy, whether you think she should marry him, and why. Explain what your answer would be, what were the motivating factors in your answer, and what thoughts and feelings would be running through your head.

Question 2 - You and this guy have been dating exclusively for a while. Whatever it was that made you attracted to him in the first place, it doesn't seem to do it for you anymore, and you're thinking of breaking it off. Before you can, you find out he has been seeing someone else. What thoughts and feelings would run through your head, how would you act, and what would motivate you to act that way?

Question 3 - You find out that this person you enjoy hanging out with thinks you're boring, and is only hanging out with you to be civil. What would you think and feel, what would you do, and what would motivate you to do it?

Again, I'd appreciate any help I could get, and thanks in advance.

[Emily]

pestilence said:

Question 3 - You find out that this person you enjoy hanging out with thinks you're boring, and is only hanging out with you to be civil. What would you think and feel, what would you do, and what would motivate you to do it?

Sure - I'd love to help, but I'm not sure if this will in anyway, they're the first things that came into my head.

List of Brief emotions/thoughts running through my head -

Hurt, upset, crushed, Somewhat angry, unsure, debateful, accusatory to myself, worryful, wondering what I'd done wrong, defensive, upset, Irriatated, agitated...

Why am I boring?, Could I change this?, Do they hate me? Are they the only ones who dislike me, Wishing that in someway, why couldn't they not be civil and tell me the blunt truth, How did I find out? what did I do to make them think I'm boring?

I'd probably confront them, and regret it minutes later, and then start worrying about what might've happened if I'd just left it. Actually, it would depend on who it was, but yeah...


Oooh. Bad. I just typed something quickly, literally the first thoughts. I hope this helps a tiiinyy bit! ;D


P.s. Welcome to the guild

[eakyra]

pestilence said:

Hi. I'm a guy, and I'm having a little trouble with a couple of female characters I want to write about. Having little to no insight about girls and what makes them tick, I'd like to run past some scenarios against anyone who's willing to help me out. If you are, please feel free to post your responses to the following questions, and thanks in advance for your assistance and cooperation.

I hope this helps even a little.

Question 1 - Your are the second of three children. You all live with your mother, who has been divorced for almost a year and a half now. Your father still loves your mom, but she won't have him. You are really close with both your parents, but the bond is somehow deeper with your mom. Your mom has been dating a guy for around 7 months, and she's getting the feeling that he's going to propose to her. You don't think he's right for your mom, but you want her to be happy. She comes to you and your sisters, and asks what you think of the guy, whether you think she should marry him, and why. Explain what your answer would be, what were the motivating factors in your answer, and what thoughts and feelings would be running through your head.

Depends on the actual age I am but:
Mom, I love you, and I want nothing more than for you to be happy because it makes me happy. But I dont think this guy is right for you. He may be making you happy now, but in the long run I just see another divorce, and a very hurtful one. I dont care much for him, and although I cant speak for my sisters, I would rather you be happy single, then unhappy married.

Motivation for this: I believe that dad is the only guy for her. I dont like the guy that much. I love my mom.

I would ponder mentioning something about my dad. Maybe I would end up saying something later, but probably not infront of everyone else. That is, unless they say so first.

I'd probably feel sad because mom is trying to marry another guy and I still feel that my dad is the right one for her. Maybe even a little angry that she's choosing another man to be our father, and I only want my father. I'd also feel proud and important because she wanted my opinion on the matter.

Question 2 - You and this guy have been dating exclusively for a while. Whatever it was that made you attracted to him in the first place, it doesn't seem to do it for you anymore, and you're thinking of breaking it off. Before you can, you find out he has been seeing someone else. What thoughts and feelings would run through your head, how would you act, and what would motivate you to act that way?

This has always pondered me.
Initially I'd feel shocked. Then hurt, then angry. Then I'd probably go cry to my best friend, get over it, cry again, then get over it and go slap him in the face and break it off. For awhile after that, i'd feel like I did the right thing, but maybe not the face part. I might even feel sad and wonder if this is going to always happen to me. Wonder whats wrong with me that someone would go behind my back to cheat? Depression would set in. Deep depression. Then eventually somehow I'd find my way out of my funk, but still have it dwelling in the back of my head.

Question 3 - You find out that this person you enjoy hanging out with thinks you're boring, and is only hanging out with you to be civil. What would you think and feel, what would you do, and what would motivate you to do it?

First shock/pain/sadness. Then I'd probably start wondering about all the things Missy (fallen) said. In the end, I would approach her and say that I am not a pitty case and that I dont need people to feel sorry for me. I dont want to be around people who think that being around someone to be civil will somehow make them a better person for being a bitch every other day.

Later I'd probably regret the bitch part. But be pretty self assured of myself.

Still the feelings of what Missy said would kick in. And i'd probably start looking closer at my friendships.

Again, I'd appreciate any help I could get, and thanks in advance.

Hope I helped some. Welcome!

[Chris]

Thank you both. It's going to be a big help, and I've pmed you some follow-up questions if you're up for them.

[eakyra]

I am, and I'll get to them right away. ;D

[Angie]

Question 1 - Many girls under the age of twenty-five or so would probably give her a bunch of warnings about only going through with it if she's absolutely sure and not forcing them to treat him like a family member, and they would probably say, "Whatever - it's your life." when they're actually thinking, "Don't even think about it," and they would probably expect her to know how they really feel about the situation. Motivation: You really don't want her to marry this guy, but you know it will cause too much drama and trouble her mind too much if you tell her exactly how you feel about the situation, and it could cause an irrepairable rift between the mother and daughter, no matter whether or not she marries the guy.

Question 2 - Thoughts: Well, the usual "How dare he? What a jerk!" kind of thing. Actions: Tell him that you are no longer attracted to him, and he may have sensed that, but that gives him absolutely no excuse for what he did. Tell him to grow up (among a few other things you would probably say out of anger), and get on with your life. Motivation: Tell the truth, and let out your feelings about his betrayal, and finally act on the fact that he's not worth it anyway.

Question 3 - I would feel insulted, of course, and I would be a little upset that they didn't tell me this before. I could move away from that person socially, try to be a little more interesting, or just go on with things as they have been and not care what they think about me.

[eakyra]

Angie your so smart.

[Angie]

Shut up.

[Emily]

*whispers* I think she meant it....